Is it wise for a vegan to date a non-vegan? Or a vegetarian to date a non-vegetarian.
Well, let's face it…problems are bound to arise.
Successful relationships are based on shared values. Disagreement is of course healthy, but holding opinions that sit at the complete opposite end of the spectrum is going to make for a bumpy ride.
I know two married couples where one partner went vegan while the other remained a meat eater. Not only does this cause tension, but where kids are involved it can get pretty difficult:
- Could you stand watching your partner chomp down on some ribs while you eat a lentil burger?
- Could you kiss someone after they'd just necked a glass of milk?
- Could you stand back and watch your partner feed your child chicken wings?
I sure couldn't!
Okay, enough of the horrible visuals already. But really, the reality is that single vegans should look to date vegan, or at least vegetarian – if, that is, they don't want to run into the aforementioned issues later down the line.
In my opinion, if you can't agree that cruelty to animals is unnecessary, and that meat is unnecessary in maintaining a healthy diet, it doesn't bode well for a successful, loving future together.
You need to start off on a similar pathway. Of course you remain independent people, but when you share so much of your life with someone it makes sense that you need to be morally on the same page.
That's all well and good, you might say, but where can I find another person that thinks like me? A person looking for romance who shares my love of animals and plant-based foods?
Where can I find someone with interests like animal welfare, permaculture, sustainable living, alternative energy sources, bicycling over driving, organic gardening and all such conscious things?
Enter vegan dating, well, vegetarian and vegan dating, because most sites combine the two groups.
The 4 Best Vegan-Vegetarian Dating Sites
There are some niche vegan and vegetarian dating sites in this list, but the reality is that they don't have anywhere near the number of members of the bigger, more commercial sites.
However, the downside of nearly all of the big dating sites is that they don't let you filter by diet, except Match, that is.
Match is way ahead of the curve. They have quickly realized that the rise of veganism means more and more people want a vegan/vegetarian date. You may have seen their recent advertising aimed at us vegans. Kudos.
With more than 13.5 million people visiting the site every month, Match.com has more vegan and vegetarian singles than any other site, by a long shot.
In fact, I reached out to their competitor eHarmony regarding why they don't have a dietary search option for vegan or vegetarian, and they said that “They didn't consider it a relevant enough preference” (I'm paraphrasing there, but that was the message I got).
What? You have to be kidding me.
Anyway, on Match, simply select ‘vegetarian' as a dietary requirement and search for matches. You'll see lots of vegans returned in the results.
You can also search by “healthy eating”, which, if you are plant-based might be more applicable.
Let's face it, dating is a numbers game. You are more likely to meet someone on a site with 13.5 million members than one with 100,000.
One other thing I like about Match is the amount of new members joining all the time; so you see different faces and don't feel like you're swimming in the same pool with the same vegans and vegetarians who've been single for yonks!
And as we know, more people are embracing the veg every day.
Monthly Member Visits: 13.5 Million
Match is free to join. When you sign up you get an account that never expires. Obviously this comes with restrictions, and to contact and IM potential dates you need a membership. It's pretty affordable though, and certainly cheaper than a night out.
Paid Member (per month):
- 12 months – $15.99
- 6 months – $17.99
- 3 months – $19.99
- 1 month – $35.99
Here's a comparison of the features you get with paid membership verses that of the free membership.
2. Spiritual Singles
Okay, so let's have a look at the smaller, more niche options.
First up is Spiritual Singles. Originally launched online in 1996, this site has been serving spiritually-inspired singles ever since. Interestingly, it actually began its life as a paper newsletter back in 1985.
Spiritual Singles has over 85,000 members worldwide and provides a progressive dating environment for conscious people such as vegans, vegetarians and those who advocate for animal rights.
The membership is fairly small compared with Match but you are sure to immediately find like-minded people.
Here you'll find environmentally conscious people who value the lives of animals and what food they put into their bodies. Membership options range from $10/month to $19/month and include the following:
- Initiate up to 50 emails per day to other members using our internal site email system.
- Initiate unlimited instant messages to other members on the site.
- Upload up to 20 photos to your photo albums.
- See basic astrological compatibility with any member on the site.
Monthly Member Visits: 166,000
Veggie Connection is a not-for-profit site that is supported by volunteers and the financial subsidies of its founder, Ken.
A smaller user base than Spiritual Singles, sure, but even more targeted.
On VC you'll find vegans, raw-foodists, fruitarians, vegetarians and macrobiotics for romance and friendships. It's a community within itself that boasts a forum, blog and regular polls for its members.
The site is user friendly, albeit a tad out of touch with modern design expectations, with the ability to add up to 52 photos and revise your profile at the click of a button. Time on site per member is high at 8 minutes+, a good sign that users enjoy sticking around.
It's free to join, with subscriptions starting at just $3.33 a month. Silver membership means that recipients must be on, or upgrade to, Silver or Gold to reply. Whereas Gold membership means recipients of all levels, including free members, may read and reply.
Monthly Member Visits: 40,000+
Veggie Date is arguably the most popular vegetarian dating site online, so note that in addition to vegans and raw vegans the site includes lacto vegetarians, ovo vegetarians, pescatarians (fish and vegetable eaters), semi-vegetarian and macrobiotic eaters.
More than 400 new members join the site each month, so it's pretty active. It's worth a mention that Veggie Date was a 2013 nominee for best niche dating data. That was some time ago though, and in my opinion the site could do with an upgrade to bring it into 2020.
The site is free to join and browse. Premium members can upload additional photos and send any member (even free members) a message, who in turn will be able to read and respond.
- 1 months for $19.95
- 3 months for $35.95
- 6 months for $45.95
- 12 months for $59.95
Monthly Traffic: 30,000+
Wishing you all the best in your search for conscious love. x